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No matter how strongly we think we believe what we say, it's as if we have conflicting, much stronger beliefs, buried deep in our minds. So deep, we can't even see what they are. Yet, those beliefs rule the roost.
In the next post, I'll show you a different way to understand those "hidden beliefs", which opens up a simple way to free yourself from them. But before we leave the topic, here's how you can turbo-charge your affirmations, so that not even "hidden beliefs" can hold you back.
The problem is words
Whole books have been written about how to phrase affirmations. Yet, even when we are sure we have crafted words that are watertight, that negative voice in our heads finds a credibility leak.
Worse still, even with totally believable words, we might still be sending the opposite message to the one we intend. At the end of the day, asking for more of something is a statement that we lack that thing, and we are in a place of wanting it.
So what gets amplified by that statement?
"Lack" and "wanting" of the thing.
Far from attracting what we want, we end up pushing it away.
Words create big problems with affirmations. Dropping the words can solve all those problems.
How to go wordless
By all means use words to figure out the details and get clear about what it is you want. That's the logical, reasoning stage. You need words for that.
But affirmations reach beyond logic and reason. That's the time to drop your words.
To begin, put your affirmation aside for a while, and simply recall a thing or an event that makes you feel fantastic when you think about it.
Lets say, for example, that it's the best chocolate you have ever had in your life. ("Chocolate" comes in many forms - choose whatever you like.)
Now, recall your "chocolate" as vividly as you can, and stoke up the feeling that it gives you. When that feeling is overflowing, then bring in the thing you want to affirm. No words are needed, simply imagine having that thing, right in that moment.
See what's happening?
You are associating having the thing you want with a wonderful feeling. The more you do that, the less likely you will shrink back from opportunities to step into being, having or doing the thing you want.
Now, your affirmation is doing a touch more than just helping you feel good in the moment.
As long as you do not use words, that negative voice in your head cannot start an argument with you to undermine you. If it tries, pause your affirmation and go back to thinking just about your "chocolate"... and then bring the thing you want to affirm back into your picture.
Even turbo-charged engines can go out of tune and need an oil change to refresh them every now and then. This way of doing affirmations is no exception. It can go stale after a while.
I suggest you set yourself up with a whole box full of "chocolates" - experiences that help you feel fantastic when you remember them: encounters with special people, moments of success, beautiful scenery, holidays, receiving gifts, memorable meals... It can be anything (even actual chocolate).
Then you can use a different "chocolate" from time to time, to keep your wordless affirmations fresh and alive.
And let me know how you get on, or if you have any questions. Either in the comments below, or email me using the contact box over on the right.