Wednesday, 29 July 2015

What's Really Holding You Back? It's Not What You Believe.

In the previous posts of this series, the Skills Of Success, we took a look at affirmations, and saw the "trampoline effect".

While affirmations (and similar techniques) can bounce our mood higher in the moment, they don't often take us very far towards achieving our aims. "Something" keeps pulling us back to where we started from.

What we are told

We are often told it's the unconscious beliefs that we hold, buried deep in our minds, that keeps thwarting our efforts.

But is it?

The experts who tell us it is, rarely tell us much about how to fix the problem. That pisses me off. If those beliefs are there, I want them to come out to face me and have a proper fight. No hiding away.

So I've been on a mission to find them.

What I found

Nothing. Well, not beliefs.

I'll admit it often seems "as if" my actions may be driven by unconscious beliefs - I do some strange things at times - but "as if" does not prove "it is". Rather, it begs the question, What if it's something else?

And what exactly is an unconscious belief? What would it look like.

To me, a belief is what I stand for, something I'd fight for, something I'd die for.

We are often told the most common unconscious belief is some form of, "I'm not good enough." Well, if someone told me that I am good enough, I certainly would not fight to the death to prove them wrong.

Would you?

It's plain dumb

Something else dawned on me. A belief takes logic to construct it and justify it. The logic is not always sound, but it can be quite complex and requires figuring out. So how can the subconscious mind hold beliefs?

There is a clear consensus that the subconscious mind is somewhat "dumb" in that respect. Reasoning and logic are faculties of the conscious mind only.

So, after a thorough search, and despite what we are often told, I have to conclude that there are no beliefs held in our subconscious minds.

But I did find something else.

Something much more simple.
More simple to deal with, too.
I'll spill the beans in my next post, coming in just a few days time.

CHIMP SAYS
Talking about "spilling the beans", Steve... We all want to know about those strange behaviours of yours that you mentioned?

I'll remind you later. But right now, I'm fascinated to learn what "it" is if it isn't unconscious beliefs, Can't wait to find out!

Wednesday, 15 July 2015

CHIMP did this!

I leave CHIMP in charge of my blog site while I'm away, and this is what happens.

Gone is the background picture of the Cosmos, the old colours and fonts...

CHIMP says the old design was a touch dark, and this new one brings in the freshness of a Summer's day. He says it's more down-to-earth, too, as well as...

Well, actually, I like it. What do you think?

I've been away working on some book projects (mine and others). They are due to be published from October 2015. If you join my e-mail list, you'll be first in line for a free copy of my new book, before it goes on sale at Amazon.

I'm back here in the Biggest Room for now. In a few days I'll be carrying on with my series of posts on the Skills Of Success.

To your success!


CHIMP SAYS
You're lucky!  I very nearly chose a banana plantation for the new background.

Hmmm? When are you going away again, Steve?
(Hee! Hee!)

Friday, 1 May 2015

Turbo-Charge Your Affirmations...... Go Wordless

Picture credit: Jay Janssen, Flickr
In the previous post, we exposed the big snag that scuppers our affirmations: credibility.

No matter how strongly we think we believe what we say, it's as if we have conflicting, much stronger beliefs, buried deep in our minds. So deep, we can't even see what they are. Yet, those beliefs rule the roost.

In the next post, I'll show you a different way to understand those "hidden beliefs", which opens up a simple way to free yourself from them. But before we leave the topic, here's how you can turbo-charge your affirmations, so that not even "hidden beliefs" can hold you back.

The problem is words

Whole books have been written about how to phrase affirmations. Yet, even when we are sure we have crafted words that are watertight, that negative voice in our heads finds a credibility leak.

Worse still, even with totally believable words, we might still be sending the opposite message to the one we intend. At the end of the day, asking for more of something is a statement that we lack that thing, and we are in a place of wanting it.

So what gets amplified by that statement?

"Lack" and "wanting" of the thing.

Far from attracting what we want, we end up pushing it away.

Words create big problems with affirmations. Dropping the words can solve all those problems.

How to go wordless

By all means use words to figure out the details and get clear about what it is you want. That's the logical, reasoning stage. You need words for that.

But affirmations reach beyond logic and reason. That's the time to drop your words.

To begin, put your affirmation aside for a while, and simply recall a thing or an event that makes you feel fantastic when you think about it.

Lets say, for example, that it's the best chocolate you have ever had in your life. ("Chocolate" comes in many forms - choose whatever you like.)

Now, recall your "chocolate" as vividly as you can, and stoke up the feeling that it gives you. When that feeling is overflowing, then bring in the thing you want to affirm. No words are needed, simply imagine having that thing, right in that moment.

See what's happening?

You are associating having the thing you want with a wonderful feeling.
 The more you do that, the less likely you will shrink back from opportunities to step into being, having or doing the thing you want.

Now, your affirmation is doing a touch more than just helping you feel good in the moment.

As long as you do not use words, that negative voice in your head cannot start an argument with you to undermine you. If it tries, pause your affirmation and go back to thinking just about your "chocolate"... and then bring the thing you want to affirm back into your picture.

Variety

Even turbo-charged engines can go out of tune and need an oil change to refresh them every now and then. This way of doing affirmations is no exception. It can go stale after a while.

I suggest you set yourself up with a whole box full of "chocolates" - experiences that help you feel fantastic when you remember them: encounters with special people, moments of success, beautiful scenery, holidays, receiving gifts, memorable meals... It can be anything (even actual chocolate).

Then you can use a different "chocolate" from time to time, to keep your wordless affirmations fresh and alive.

Enjoy!

And let me know how you get on, or if you have any questions. Either in the comments below, or email me using the contact box over on the right.


CHIMP SAYS

I'm saying nothing!
I'm just thinking of chocolate-dipped bananas...